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When holidays like Mother’s Day hurt, and hope that they won’t always do that

I used to have to “write out” Mother’s Day in the form of a post– like– a long blog post or a poem or some kind of reflection. And I didn’t do it this year…unless you count this one, but the purpose of this is a lot different than those sorts of gutteral “I’ve gotta …

Guest Post: When Mom Took Off the Mask

Beth here: with my daughter’s permission, I’m sharing a piece she wrote in honor of Sexual Assault Awareness Month. She reflected on what it was like when I “took off the mask” I wore as a result of being sexually abused as a child and expected to maintain a facade of “everything’s fine.” When Mom …

Trauma Recovery: Sessions With Dr. Matt is now available for pre-order!

We are thrilled to announce that our book, Trauma Recovery: Sessions With Dr. Matt is now available for pre-order! More stores will follow, but these are the current sites showing the pre-order info: Amazon U.S. Amazon Canada Amazon U.K. Waterstones Books- U.K. & Europe   Trauma Recovery: Sessions with Dr. Matt conveys hope and resilience …

What Trauma Recovery Does to Your Close Relationships

By Beth Fehlbaum, Matt E. Jaremko, and guest contributors Preface Beth Fehlbaum and Matt E. Jaremko, co-authors of the forthcoming book, Trauma Recovery: Sessions With Dr. Matt, address some of what happens to folks as they go through trauma recovery. In this installment, Matt and Beth discuss what can and does happen to the relationships …

How Does One Identify an Experience as a Trauma?

By Matt E. Jaremko and Beth Fehlbaum Our title might sound somewhat nonsensical. Of course, if you have experienced a trauma, you will know it. However, admitting that you have experienced trauma may not be as straightforward as you might think. Folks can tend to underplay the extent to which they deserve care and attention. …

Chapter 5 Playlist: Breaking the Rules

The main idea discussed in this chapter is that folks engage in action that follows rules they have been given. Many times, the rules followed by the individual have been examined and turn out to be true. But sometimes, the rule following is so ‘automatic’ that it is not questioned. In these cases, false rules are followed and maintain unhealthy behavior. The items presented in this playlist give common examples of how following false rules can devastate a life.

1. “It Don’t Bring You,” Mary Chapin Carpenter

Moving song about how following the unhealthy rules we’ve been given causes hollow and unfulfilling relationships unless they are matched with healthy action.

2. A Girl Like Her (2015) (Netflix Movie)

A powerful depiction of the effects of bullying on a high school.

3. Confirmation (2016) (Movie)

A divorced father and his son expect to have a typical weekend together, but when a toolbox with special meaning is stolen, bonding occurs between father and son. The film demonstrates how the ill-effects of following false rules can be changed when authentic rules are adhered to.

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