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We are trying to make the point that PTSD is a disorder of being stuck in an imbalance between energy devoted to avoiding the unpleasantry of life after trauma, and energy devoted to approaching valued and meaningful life activity. Excessive reliance on avoiding or escaping pain and hurt usually results in more unpleasantry (after only brief periods of escape from the negative). Appreciating the shortsightedness of this negative approach to life is a crucial step in recovery from trauma-interrupted life. These songs and films may help you think about and feel this imbalance in a more vivid way.<\/p>\n

1. “Everyday Now,” Chuck Pyle<\/strong><\/p>\n

<\/iframe><\/p>\n<p>When people delay the hard work in a relationship, not much good happens.<\/p>\n<p><strong>2. “Late for the Sky,” Jackson Browne<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"Jackson Browne Late For The Sky\" width=\"545\" height=\"409\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/kqYiHkx7ils?feature=oembed\" frameborder=\"0\" allow=\"accelerometer; autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture; web-share\" referrerpolicy=\"strict-origin-when-cross-origin\" allowfullscreen><\/iframe><\/p>\n<p>Realizing one\u2019s old ways are not working anymore is profoundly sad, if you allow yourself to truly face it. From that place, there is nowhere else to go…but up.<\/p>\n<p><strong>3. “Heaven Is So High and I\u2019m So Far Down,” Pat Wictor<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"Pat Wictor - Heaven Is So High\" width=\"545\" height=\"409\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/waqYCRQkE_I?feature=oembed\" frameborder=\"0\" allow=\"accelerometer; autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture; web-share\" referrerpolicy=\"strict-origin-when-cross-origin\" allowfullscreen><\/iframe><\/p>\n<p>An ex-seventh-grade teacher from New York City writes about how far away a better life can feel. Great slide guitar work included.<\/p>\n<p><strong>4. “Mercy Now,” Mary Gauthier<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"Mary Gauthier - Mercy Now [Audio]\" width=\"545\" height=\"307\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/vL6JoP0KCoo?feature=oembed\" frameborder=\"0\" allow=\"accelerometer; autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture; web-share\" referrerpolicy=\"strict-origin-when-cross-origin\" allowfullscreen><\/iframe><\/p>\n<p>Maybe mercy can be manufactured, using the right procedures. Go on, get unstuck, and get some.<\/p>\n<p><strong>5. “Victims of Life,” The Avett Brothers<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"Victims Of Life\" width=\"545\" height=\"307\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/ONM2unj4mNQ?feature=oembed\" frameborder=\"0\" allow=\"accelerometer; autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture; web-share\" referrerpolicy=\"strict-origin-when-cross-origin\" allowfullscreen><\/iframe><\/p>\n<p>It is vital to recognize that what one is doing could be making one\u2019s life worse. Then, life can become dedicating efforts to changing one\u2019s approach to it.<\/p>\n<p><strong>6. “No Hard Feelings,” The Avett Brothers\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"The Avett Brothers - No Hard Feelings (Official Video)\" width=\"545\" height=\"307\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/tFGs7HP15d4?feature=oembed\" frameborder=\"0\" allow=\"accelerometer; autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture; web-share\" referrerpolicy=\"strict-origin-when-cross-origin\" allowfullscreen><\/iframe><\/p>\n<p>Inner peace is possible to achieve.<\/p>\n<p><strong>7. “Break in the Cup,” David Wilcox<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"Break In The Cup\" width=\"545\" height=\"409\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/dH2g0PXVY4o?feature=oembed\" frameborder=\"0\" allow=\"accelerometer; autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture; web-share\" referrerpolicy=\"strict-origin-when-cross-origin\" allowfullscreen><\/iframe><\/p>\n<p>It is not possible to \u201cfix\u201d another person. Each has to take control of their own recovery.<\/p>\n<p><strong><em>8. Reign Over Me<\/em> (2007)(Movie)<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"Reign Over Me Trailer\" width=\"545\" height=\"307\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/sRiqz_WnYxc?feature=oembed\" frameborder=\"0\" allow=\"accelerometer; autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture; web-share\" referrerpolicy=\"strict-origin-when-cross-origin\" allowfullscreen><\/iframe><\/p>\n<p>This movie is about a man traumatized by his family\u2019s death on 9\/11. His only way back is by facing the truth.<\/p>\n<p>9. <strong><em>An Unfinished Life<\/em> (2005)<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"An Unfinished Life (2005) - Official Trailer\" width=\"545\" height=\"307\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/6_C_8K_KnG8?feature=oembed\" frameborder=\"0\" allow=\"accelerometer; autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture; web-share\" referrerpolicy=\"strict-origin-when-cross-origin\" allowfullscreen><\/iframe><\/p>\n<p>This movie is about a father who is traumatized by his son\u2019s death and stuck in blame. Even as buried anger and accusations resurface, the way is opened for unexpected connection, adventure, and forgiveness. This is a moving portrayal of how life without values is empty but becomes overflowing when meaning and purpose is discovered.<\/p>\n<p> <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>We are trying to make the point that PTSD is a disorder of being stuck in an imbalance between energy devoted to avoiding the unpleasantry of life after trauma, and energy devoted to approaching valued and meaningful life activity. 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