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When holidays like Mother’s Day hurt, and hope that they won’t always do that

I used to have to “write out” Mother’s Day in the form of a post– like– a long blog post or a poem or some kind of reflection. And I didn’t do it this year…unless you count this one, but the purpose of this is a lot different than those sorts of gutteral “I’ve gotta …

Guest Post: When Mom Took Off the Mask

Beth here: with my daughter’s permission, I’m sharing a piece she wrote in honor of Sexual Assault Awareness Month. She reflected on what it was like when I “took off the mask” I wore as a result of being sexually abused as a child and expected to maintain a facade of “everything’s fine.” When Mom …

Trauma Recovery: Sessions With Dr. Matt is now available for pre-order!

We are thrilled to announce that our book, Trauma Recovery: Sessions With Dr. Matt is now available for pre-order! More stores will follow, but these are the current sites showing the pre-order info: Amazon U.S. Amazon Canada Amazon U.K. Waterstones Books- U.K. & Europe   Trauma Recovery: Sessions with Dr. Matt conveys hope and resilience …

What Trauma Recovery Does to Your Close Relationships

By Beth Fehlbaum, Matt E. Jaremko, and guest contributors Preface Beth Fehlbaum and Matt E. Jaremko, co-authors of the forthcoming book, Trauma Recovery: Sessions With Dr. Matt, address some of what happens to folks as they go through trauma recovery. In this installment, Matt and Beth discuss what can and does happen to the relationships …

How Does One Identify an Experience as a Trauma?

By Matt E. Jaremko and Beth Fehlbaum Our title might sound somewhat nonsensical. Of course, if you have experienced a trauma, you will know it. However, admitting that you have experienced trauma may not be as straightforward as you might think. Folks can tend to underplay the extent to which they deserve care and attention. …

The Playlist Felicia Gave Ashley

From Beth: I want to share with you the playlist Felicia listened to as she began her run in Chapter 9, because I find these songs so soothing and empowering at the same time. When Matt and I wrote this scene, I imagined that these songs would be on the playlist Ashley gave Felicia.

If you read the “Duet” between Dr. Jaremko and me in which we talk about the first CD he gave me and how it impacted me, as well as his rationale for including each song, you know how music aided the therapeutic bond I felt with him–they truly led me to trust him, because I could tell that he really “got” where I was coming from and that he believed something I didn’t yet: I was strong enough to face the stuff I’d run away from for 30 years.

As you may recall, Dr. Matt had assigned Felicia to go on a 30 minute walk after writing her account of being abused, and I just knew that Felicia would pop on her earbuds and listen to a playlist shared with her by Ashley. This was especially meaningful to Felicia because Ashley gave it to her. Felicia considers Ashley to be her “hero,” because Ashley emerged a fundamentally stronger person after her recovery journey, which Dr. Matt had told her would be like a “barefoot journey from Texas to Alaska and back, with all the weather along the way.” Felicia believes that if Ashley can get through hell and come out the other side, she can, as well.

I hope you find the following songs to be soothing and empowering. Even now, when I am stressed or feeling anxious, I listen to this playlist. Note: some of these songs are duplicated on other lists. However, I imagine Ashley pulling the songs that most speak to her into a custom playlist. ALSO, there are a few songs that are on there just because they’re fun and encourage dancing. And who doesn’t need a little dancing now and then, right?




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