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When holidays like Mother’s Day hurt, and hope that they won’t always do that

I used to have to “write out” Mother’s Day in the form of a post– like– a long blog post or a poem or some kind of reflection. And I didn’t do it this year…unless you count this one, but the purpose of this is a lot different than those sorts of gutteral “I’ve gotta …

Guest Post: When Mom Took Off the Mask

Beth here: with my daughter’s permission, I’m sharing a piece she wrote in honor of Sexual Assault Awareness Month. She reflected on what it was like when I “took off the mask” I wore as a result of being sexually abused as a child and expected to maintain a facade of “everything’s fine.” When Mom …

Trauma Recovery: Sessions With Dr. Matt is now available for pre-order!

We are thrilled to announce that our book, Trauma Recovery: Sessions With Dr. Matt is now available for pre-order! More stores will follow, but these are the current sites showing the pre-order info: Amazon U.S. Amazon Canada Amazon U.K. Waterstones Books- U.K. & Europe   Trauma Recovery: Sessions with Dr. Matt conveys hope and resilience …

What Trauma Recovery Does to Your Close Relationships

By Beth Fehlbaum, Matt E. Jaremko, and guest contributors Preface Beth Fehlbaum and Matt E. Jaremko, co-authors of the forthcoming book, Trauma Recovery: Sessions With Dr. Matt, address some of what happens to folks as they go through trauma recovery. In this installment, Matt and Beth discuss what can and does happen to the relationships …

How Does One Identify an Experience as a Trauma?

By Matt E. Jaremko and Beth Fehlbaum Our title might sound somewhat nonsensical. Of course, if you have experienced a trauma, you will know it. However, admitting that you have experienced trauma may not be as straightforward as you might think. Folks can tend to underplay the extent to which they deserve care and attention. …

Chapter 1 Playlist: Come On In

Here are some videos of songs or films we think add to the content you read about in Chapter 1 of Trauma Recovery: Sessions with Dr. Matt. We hope that the music and film stimulates the right side of your brain after the left (verbal) side has been stimulated by what you read in the book. A brief comment is added after each link that clarifies some of our reasoning in adding the selection.

“Changes in Lattitudes/Changes in Attitudes,” Jimmy Buffett

Things always change. They must change if one is to become unstuck. Here, Jimmy Buffett seems to be sad about the changes until he realizes he can only grow if accepts nature on its own terms.

2. “Too Much,” Guy Clark

Much of the misery we create for ourselves is self-induced by either behavioral excesses or behavioral deficits.

3. “I Promise You,” Show of Hands

Good things might happen in the future; they might even be promised. But first, we must endure the hard times.

4. “Saturday They’ll All be Back Again,” David Wilcox

No matter what happens, the passionate side of a human must return.

5. “One Blade Shy of a Sharp Edge,” Nanci Griffith

Whether we think it or not, we are all just a moment away from a very hard landing. 70-80% of people report they have had a trauma in life. Most of us have it coming, and we’d better be ready to bounce back from it.

6. “Show the Way,” David Wilcox

It is important to question the belief that there is no hope.

7. “Stuff that Works,” Guy Clark

Entering recovery can feel overwhelming. Focusing on basic “good stuff” makes big changes less scary.

8. “Across the Great Divide,” Kate Wolf

We can stay stuck in the past only so long. Eventually, we have to cross over to a better way. Getting unstuck may seem impossible right now, but it’s not. It’s just on the other side of some divide of your own making.

9. High Fidelity (2000) (Movie)

This film is about a man who learns to get outside of himself. True happiness takes place when one looks beyond one’s selfish wants. Humans are best when they are considering the needs of others. There is peace there.

10. TRIGGER WARNING: Happy New Year (2011) (Movie)

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An Iraq war veteran finds compassion and acceptance among fellow soldiers in a VA hospital. In spite of the support they provide for each other, they are haunted by the trauma they endured in combat. Together, they face self-destructive feelings and ever-present guilt and shame. Not all stories of trauma turn out well.

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