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What Trauma Recovery Does to Your Close Relationships

By Beth Fehlbaum, Matt E. Jaremko, and guest contributors Preface Beth Fehlbaum and Matt E. Jaremko, co-authors of the forthcoming book, Trauma Recovery: Sessions With Dr. Matt, address some of what happens to folks as they go through trauma recovery. In this installment, Matt and Beth discuss what can and does happen to the relationships …

How Does One Identify an Experience as a Trauma?

By Matt E. Jaremko and Beth Fehlbaum Our title might sound somewhat nonsensical. Of course, if you have experienced a trauma, you will know it. However, admitting that you have experienced trauma may not be as straightforward as you might think. Folks can tend to underplay the extent to which they deserve care and attention. …

Giving Thanks for the Opportunity to Share a Message of Hope and Resilience with Trauma Survivors

Something I’m thankful for: my writing partner and the book we wrote together. I’m sharing the cover with you. It’s the first time it’s been posted publicly. My co-author, Matt, and I really like this cover because of the light coming into the group therapy circle: providing the light of hope in the face of …

Being Tender yet Tough with Veterans

As any subgroup of Americans, military veterans cover a wide spectrum of personality types and pre-service adjustment history. While there is almost universal agreement that veterans should be honored for serving, across the board admiration without constructive criticism may be unwise. Not every hero acts heroically all the time. Sometimes folks with adjustment difficulties need …

Perseverence + Resilience + Patience = Hope for Recovery

I sometimes say that my middle name is “Perseverence.” It could also be said that Resilience runs through my veins, which is, in part, why writing a book with Matt E. Jaremko–Trauma Recovery: Sessions With Dr. Matt: Narratives of Hope and Resilience for Victims of PTSD–is so gratifying, because it will help SO MANY PEOPLE. …

Chapter 1 Playlist: Come On In

Here are some videos of songs or films we think add to the content you read about in Chapter 1 of Trauma Recovery: Sessions with Dr. Matt. We hope that the music and film stimulates the right side of your brain after the left (verbal) side has been stimulated by what you read in the book. A brief comment is added after each link that clarifies some of our reasoning in adding the selection.

Changes in Lattitudes/Changes in Attitudes, Jimmy Buffett

Things always change. They must change if one is to become unstuck. Here Jimmy Buffett seems to be sad about the changes until he realizes he can only grow if accepts nature on it’s own terms.

2. Too Much, Guy Clark

Much of the misery we create for ourselves is self-induced by either behavioral excesses or behavioral deficits.

3. I Promise You, Show of Hands

Good things might happen in the future, they might even be promised. But, first we must endure the hard times.

4. Saturday they’ll all be back again, David Wilcox

No matter what happens, the passionate side of a human must return.

5. One blade shy of a sharp edge, Nanci Griffith

Whether we think it or not, we are all just a moment away from a very hard landing. 70-80% of people report they have had a trauma in life. Most of us have it coming; and we better be ready to bounce back from it.

6. Show the way, David Wilcox

It is important to question the belief that there is no hope.

7. Stuff that works, Guy Clark

Entering recovery can feel overwhelming. Focusing on basic “good stuff” makes big changes less scary.

8. Across the great divide, Kate Wolf

We can stay stuck in the past only so long. Eventually we have to cross over to a better way. Getting unstuck may seem impossible right now but it’s not. It’s just on the other side of some divide of your own making.

9. High Fidelity is a movie made in 2000.

About a man who learns to get outside of himself. True happiness takes place when one looks beyond one’s selfish wants. Humans are best when they are considering the needs of others. There is peace there.

10. TRIGGER WARNING. Happy New Year, 2011 movie

An Iraq war veteran finds compassion and acceptance among fellow soldiers in a VA hospital. In spite of the support they provide for each other, they are haunted by the trauma they endured in combat. Together they face self-destructive feelings and ever-present guilt and shame. Not all stories of trauma turn out well.

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